It's been awhile!!!! I have had a little bit of a block....then I received some advice that writers just write. So, that's what I have been doing......not by blog but in a journal and a common theme seems to come across lately!
PATIENCE
It's really hard to have patience. Especially when every minute of the day requires you to be patient. Bet many of you can say the same thing!!!! Maybe I am too patient and that's why I take blood pressure meds....LOL! But honestly, I feel like my only time to not deal with patience is when everyone goes to bed. That's my moment to watch crazy TV shows or work, and in reality, that's when I work. So there is no letting go....not completely!
I want to talk about patience and autism. To deal with autism, you have to be patient. Everything takes time......and truly it's not how you plan it to be. Things we consider automatic, are not automatic for them. For them, it's a series of steps. Maybe a chain they must memorize. Teaching that chain takes time. And a step forward is sometimes 2 steps back. You have to be patient to work through it and it's not always easy......because you have to wait! Well, who has time for that???
Let me give you an example, JB lacks self-help skills. What does that mean? It means, he doesn't feed himself, he doesn't dress himself, he doesn't brush his teeth or comb his hair......I do it. Imagine a morning where you are making lunches for kids, getting clothes ready, taking care of your own personal needs and then having to do all those same personal care things for another. It can get a little crazy (and he's 7)! And all these things, aren't quick. For JB everything is a game or a bargain. If you do this, then that.......sometimes just putting on socks can take 30 minutes.
And it's not just that. We are currently teaching JB about a time out from mommy. I have to wear a bracelet to show him when I am available for him and when I am not. From the time JB gets up to the time he goes to bed, he follows me around. Kinda like a new puppy would. I go get coffee and JB is literally right behind me, hiding under my robe. I am in the shower and JB opens the shower door to hold random conversations with me. I am cooking dinner and JB is into everything I do so as I cook I am cleaning up his mess. These things are just a few examples of what our days are like.
Awwwwww patience!
That word again. But it's true, you have to have patience. You have to breathe and let go. And you have to have an outlet. I often giggle about things with friends. I started walking and getting up 15 minutes earlier to barely work out. But it's something. And I steal a tip from JB's book, I cope by breathing and centering myself. Although I am not always my best me, I sure give 100% towards being my best me with a positive attitude! Hmmmmmmmm.......writing that just made me realize that being positive holds so much power. I spend a lot of time thinking, "We got this!" I get up and keep going! Because I love my children, I love my job, I love my husband (most of the time), and I am learning to love me.....me is not easy but that's an ongoing issue, self-confidence thing. But I'll get that too! Soon!
TTFN folks......and remember patience is a virtue!
Martha
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