How do we measure success????
Think about that for a minute. I think, as adults, we often equate success to how well we are doing. Some of us even equate it to how much we make.....but that's not always the case. Sometimes success is all about the little things. It's the smile on your child's face, it's the test they pass, it's seeing them score a goal, it's seeing them finish a book they absolutely loved reading.....
What happens when they don't succeed? How does that change you, your thoughts?
This past week, JB did not succeed. He did some things that have made school decide that maybe, just maybe, general education is not right for him at this time. Hearing that hurt.....because you want so much for your child to do well. And when they don't, well, it hurts.
Maybe JB did succeed though. The running away, the tantrums, and finally a moment where he strangled himself with a cord at school (yes, UGH!)....just maybe those were all cries for help. Maybe it's his way of telling me that something is not right. See, JB can't always express himself.....something as simple as stubbing a toe brings about chaos. Brings on a behavior.
So maybe...JB's actions are his way of asking for help. Maybe that is his success. Maybe this is what HE NEEDS. Maybe, just maybe, success for JB is measured by the tiny actions that get attention because that attention is for the betterment of him. And we are getting there. We also have a long road ahead of us...a meeting to decide what is the best placement for JB. Medicine to take that I am worried about. But if all of this helps my JB........then that is SUCCESS! As stressful as it all is, that is success! And knowing that has to help keep me going! It just has to!
TTFN,
Martha
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